So 2018 is in full swing, and many of us will be well into living up to our New Year’s Resolutions (or not!). Some of them will be pretty serious, and some may be a bit weird – or if you’re pushing the boat out, perhaps just plain bonkers.
‘I’ll try to perform stunts with my car on the local bridges’, or ‘I’ll learn what the word “resolution” means’. And yes – those last two are actually real.
Either way, whatever challenge you’ve set yourself for the year ahead, we wish you luck with it! But all the annual chit-chat about New Year’s Resolutions got us thinking – why do we make them in the first place?
Well, everyone’s reason will be different. For some it’s about moving towards something that they aspire to achieve. For others it will be moving away from something that they don’t want or don’t value in their life anymore. And the beginning of a new year is often seen as a good starting point (it really doesn’t matter when in the year you decide – the most important thing is to do it with conviction).
Whatever it is that you want to achieve, one of the surest ways to make it happen is to state what you do want, rather than what you don’t want. Easier said than done though. Research has indicated that we have an inherent tendency towards negative thoughts – which make up as much as 80% of our spontaneous thinking.
‘I don’t want to be overweight’, rather than, ‘I will be slim and fit’. ‘I don’t want to work such long hours’, rather than, ‘I will commit to 8 hours sleep a night and to being home by 6pm at least two evenings a week’.
And many of us are afflicted by the ‘should syndrome’. We bet you’ve had ‘should’ thoughts in the past. If your goal is built around a ‘should do’ rather than a ‘can do’ – you’re already on your way to not seeing it through.
So whatever goals you’re setting yourself, or indeed supporting others with this year, here’s a resolution for you. Make sure they’re stated in the positive (i.e. what you do want) and that they’re truly meaningful (i.e. not ‘should do’s’), and you’ll make them more likely to happen!